This day brings me joy in celebrating my incredible mom. This photograph is of us on a beach together in Scotland on a recent trip to Europe with my dad and Tyler. We enjoyed creating some amazing memories on this trip, something my parents have always been intentional about.
Let me start off by saying my mom is one of the kindest, most fun-loving and loyal people you will meet. She has always been one of my biggest supporters and in my adult life, has become one of my best friends.
Fortunately and unfortunately for me, the struggle with infertility in our family didn’t just start two years ago. You see, I am a fertility baby.
When my parents decided they were ready to embark on the journey to parenthood, they quickly had my brother and began life as a young family together. Several years later, they were ready to grow their family, but this go around didn’t come as easily. Like us, my parents infertility diagnosis was “undefined”. There was no identifiable problem.
My mom then began fertility injections and endured extreme hurt and disappointment for six solid years. Talk about incredible strength. She and my dad finally decided it was time to explore another avenue and began the process to adopt a little baby girl. They were quite a ways through the process to adopt and were sending clothes to the hospital for their daughter to come home in when they discovered they were pregnant. They decided to discontinue the adoption and thankfully she had a healthy pregnancy and delivery…with me!
My mom has never for a minute taken the gift and role of motherhood for granted. It is never lost on me that being a mom is the greatest joy of her life. It is evident in her constant support and presence in my life.
These past two years have been extremely difficult for us as a couple, but I know they have been especially hard for her, bringing to the surface old wounds and emotions, and feeling helpless as a parent. Her gentle strength and understanding have been invaluable to me, and knowing that she truly knows how I feel reminds me I’m never alone.
This Mother’s Day I am so thankful for my mom’s strength and how she forged the way to traverse the stormy waters of infertility with grace (though it’s not perfect always) and blind faith. I have needed her desperately and she has never let me down.
She reminds me there is hope, and there is purpose in the tough stuff. She reminds me family is the most important and never to take it for granted.
So this Mother’s Day, I am thankful for SO many other things about her, but I am especially thankful she is always there and that she truly understands. I thank her for her gentleness, her strength, devotion and for always being willing to lean in during hard times. I thank her for setting an incredible example of what motherhood looks like, and I’m already thankful for how she will spoil the heck out of my babies one day.
Love you Mom!